Grow Goal of the Month – Have Fun!

May – a celebration of Mom and the first pre-summer vacation so today I’m checking in with you to see where you are on the fun ratio?

A monthly self improvement exercise

A monthly self improvement exercise

May is generally the time of year that you start to think more about how you’re going to have ‘fun’ this summer with your family.  My question is ‘what about you’?  Are you penciling in ‘your’ fun?

I get it. You’re very busy. You could be busy as a working mom or stay-at-home mom. But what about you – as an individual woman? Do you take time out for ‘you’ on a regular basis? Do you make the time to do the things that give ‘you’ life? It could be something as simple as reading a book, taking a relaxing bath or as elaborate as getting in a spa day at a fabulous resort . The important thing that I want you to keep in mind is that you need to prioritize fun in your life.  Many working women are so accustomed to taking care of everyone else’s needs while pushing their own needs to the side.  Stop doing this!  Not only are you doing a disservice to others, you are doing a disservice to yourself.  Healthy, balanced women need to allocate time for rest and play.  No matter how busy you are.  If you are out of balance in this area, maybe this month is the month that you prioritize this important part of your life.

The average four-year-old laughs 300 times a day, a 40-year-old, only four.  I don’t know if that is the actual number, but the principle is true.  The ratio is definitely true.  Even the Proverbs say that laughter is good like medicine.  I want you to take a moment right now and think about your fun ratio.  On a scale from 1 to 10 with one being almost never and 10 being weekly or daily – where are you on the fun scale?

I recently had the wonderful opportunity to add some ‘fun’ to my evening at Simply Art Studios with the Tampa Bay Blog Gals.  It was exciting and a little intimidating in the beginning because of the seemingly complexity of the canvas creation we were to paint.  The staff at Simply Art made creating the art piece simple.  The artist was very patient and showed us step-by-step.  It was interesting to see the different interpretations and personalities shine through in our final pieces.

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10177287_613815132037177_4909050401345774152_nIts been proven that friendships between women have considerable health benefits. In fact, a 2009 University of Michigan study published in the Journal Hormones and Behavior found that when women feel emotionally close to other women, their bodies produce more progesterone, boosting mood and alleviating stress.  So not only is spending time with friends fun its is healthy for your mind and body!

In case you are having a challenge or if you may feel guilty about having fun because you have so many things on your plate, here are 3 ways to reconnect with your inner fun:

  1. Technique 1 – As the famous Nike slogan suggests “Just Do It”!  Say “Yes”!  The next time you see an opportunity to do something that is a new experience (as I did with the painting experience with some new friends) just say yes!  Its been my experience that when I am feeling very hesitant about trying or doing something new – I end up having the best time and it was well worth it.
  2. Technique 2 -Travel down memory lane.  Think about your childhood.  What did you enjoy doing or participating in?  How did you spend your spare time?  Do you have a long lost hobby?  Revisit this.  Chances are doing these things are at the core of satisfaction for you.
  3. Technique 3 – Do your homework.  This technique requires that you keep a “fun journal”.  Peruse local newspapers and magazines to identify potential fun activities.  Sign up for sites like Groupon.com or Crowdsavings.com – they are always chock full of fun activities to do in your local area.  Get on the mailing list of local museums, non-profit organizations or community centers for their events calendars.  These are all rich resources to find fun in your local area.

These are just training wheels designed to get you to the real goal of continuously and regularly experiencing fun. Once you’ve learned and practiced to do that, it’s time to align your actual behavior with fun being a priority. This is as far from trivial and self-indulgent as you can get. It may be the biggest, bravest thing you’ll ever do – to take care of yourself.

Oh, remember the outing at Simply Art Studios?  Below is a shot of our final masterpieces!

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So as you are planning your summer vacation and getting the kiddos in summer camp, remember to pencil in a little fun for yourself.  I’m curious.  How many of you already are practicing this important self-care and how many of you plan to start?  What do you like do to have fun?  Post your comments below.  I’m going to be checking in with you this month to nudge you along.  Focus on fun.  Until next time…

Peace & Blessings,

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